Thoughtful Thursday Week 16 – Censorship

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Our history curriculum stretches my mind in terms of what I feel comfortable sharing with my children at their young ages. Susan Wise Bauer makes it a point in the Introduction to her Story of the World Volume 1, to warn parents about the inevitable violence of the ancient world. I think the world we are living in is very violent, too. I don’t want to recount the ways Christians become martyrs in 2015 or the way women and children are victimized in our so-called “civilized age.”

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How many of the titles Bauer suggests for additional literature or history reading do I read to my children? Some. Many. Not all. We have reached the point where violence shows up as a fact of history and I have a hard time with it. My son is in the first grade and he could probably handle it better than my daughter, who is five, and still very much a young child. To protect their innocence, I have delayed some of the stories for later. They can always read these in the next history cycle, about three years from now.

Having grown up in a country where the government censored mass media and print media, I have a strange relationship with censorship. I don’t like it because it reminds me of Communism, but I understand it plays a role up to a point in certain situations, e.g. a small child and tough, adult subjects.

I will give you another example. The Betty Lukens Through the Bible in Felts curriculum seemed like the perfect little Bible curriculum for small children. Felts provided the tactile and visual stimulation needed by children ages 1-6. We used it for our Bible and devotional times this year. Then, we got into the stories about David. You know, the shepherd boy who grew up. The shepherd boy who became a man of war. And he killed. And he killed. And he killed. Yes, David won many battles for the Lord.

My son, age six at the time, looked at me with these sad and tired little eyes and said, “If I hear of another person dying in this Bible story, I don’t want us to read any more stories from this book.” So why would Betty Lukens put in all these violent stories in a felt set for small children? Why didn’t I think it through, after one, two, three or more stories involving death and killing? Why didn’t it dawn on me that I should just skip a few stories and move on to happier places in the Bible curriculum?

That’s my blind spot. I want to follow curriculum page by page and finish it and know that it is “done.” I am learning. My children are teaching me every day. So take heart, you are not the only one who is not a perfect home educator.


Thoughtful Thursday Week 15 – Preparing for Two

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It is April, almost the middle of April, to be exact, and that means only one thing: we are planning for next year. The biggest change for us is that we will have two students now officially homeschooling and registered as such. Our daughter starts homeschool kindergarten in the fall. The sounds of that sentence cling and clang against the furniture in my room as I type this and say it out loud. It’s a cascade of feelings. Our daughter is our second and youngest. We don’t expect we will have any more children. So… there will be no more preschooler running around the house while older brother does school with mommy. Now our son will have to do something by himself while I tackle Phonics with the kindergartner.

Thoughtful Thursday - Preparing for TwoHow is that going to work? What will he do while I do school with her? How many subjects can we do together? Do I keep the curriculum I used with him in kindergarten? Do I add anything else based on her strengths and weaknesses? What is her learning style?

I have a lot of questions to answer. The above are only the first that come to mind. Like dominoes falling over more dominoes, the questions keep triggering more and more questions.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 14 – Easter

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So this is Easter week. We skipped ahead about 20 stories in our Betty Lukens Through The Bible In Felts curriculum, to the story of the crucifixion. My daughter has been telling me she really likes that story. We have been hearing about it in church in the weeks leading up to Easter, of course. She has also been looking through the Bible curriculum trying to find it. When she did, she asked for it and that’s how I decided to skip ahead for Good Friday’s devotional.

The crucifixion scene on a felt board

The crucifixion scene on our felt board

At the Library, for Story Time, they listened to stories about the Easter Bunny and they decorated eggs: some black ones with chalk, and some white ones with paint. It saved me the trouble of doing that at home. In a perfect world, eggs and bunnies, pagan fertility symbols, would not mix with the story of Christ’s crucifixion and resurrection… But we do not live in a perfect world.

Little girl painting an Easter Egg at the Library

My daughter painting an Easter Egg at the Library

We also attended a picnic with our friends from the Sevier County Homeschool Group. I was glad this year there was not as much candy as last year. The kids found quite a few eggs, but some had small toys or decorative paper clips inside. Very neat!

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I grew up under Communism in Romania and we used to listen to The Voice of America broadcasts. That’s where I first heard about an Easter Egg Hunt. I was touched there was even one at the White House. Easter Egg Hunts seemed like such an incredibly fun thing to do. We did not have them in Romania and I don’t even think they have them now, at least not as much as in the US.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 13 – Homeschooling and Real Estate

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In the world of homeschooling moms, there are those who wonder about becoming a REALTOR “on the side.” I received several questions about what this subject, so I will address it here in this post.

Let’s start with the most obvious questions: should you get a real estate license while homeschooling the children? Would that be something that can produce an easy stream of income?

The answer is, “You can get a real estate license while homeschooling the children, sure. No, it will not produce an easy stream of income.” Real estate is hard work. You work on commission, which means you might work hard for a whole month and get $0.00. Many transactions do not close. To get to a contract, you must show and list a lot of homes. That takes time and resources. The average REALTOR makes about $32,000 a year, but you would be hard-pressed to find a REALTOR who makes that kind of money “on the side.”

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After 10 years in the real estate business, I am getting ready to retire my license. I do not know when I will take it out of retirement again. I do know that since I became a mom I focused on my children so much, real estate got put on the back burner. I lost interest.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 12 – Standardized Testing

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In the US, one cannot go very far in an educational quest before coming face to face with the concept of standardized testing. My son is enrolled under the umbrella of Berean Christian School Homeschool Program. In the state of Tennessee, where we live, umbrella schools mean something very different from California, for instance. Umbrella schools in Tennessee simply keep your cumulative record and administer standardized testing. Some will offer more assistance than others.

I interviewed several in my area and Providence seemed to be directing me to Berean. The coordinator for K-8th is Lisa Lee, a teacher by profession who homeschooled her own children in the 90s. After a few interactions with her, I knew I wanted to place our homeschool in her hands.

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Homeschoolers under the Berean umbrella program must test every year at the school, starting in the second grade. Testing is available, albeit optional for first grade. We decided we wanted our son tested in the first grade because:

  • We can. Really. Why not?
  • I want to know how I am doing.
  • I also want to know if my son can handle a test.
  • I want to find out if my son does work on his grade level, higher, or lower.

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Thoughtful Thursday Week 11 – Dual Citizenship

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The title of this post could also be, “Why the United Nations, as an organization, is a bit of a joke” or, better yet, “How my children can study in European universities for free.” Trust me, the two are related.

In 2008, I was summoned to Memphis, TN for one of the many steps in the process of becoming an American citizen. The immigration officer who interviewed me and administered the citizenship test put me under oath and asked me to renounce my Romanian citizenship before accepting the American one. I suppose you can say that, for a few brief moments, before the magic of American citizenship was bestowed upon me, I was no land’s woman.

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Then, I assumed I was no longer a Romanian citizen. I assumed the US State Department or the US Citizenship and Immigration Services or somebody talked to the Romanian Embassy in Washington DC or the Romanian Ministry of External Affairs or somebody and communicated to them that oops, the Romanian side just lost a citizen who voluntarily came over to the American side. Wrong.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 10 – No iPads, Please

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The best gadget you can give a child is a physical book – one they can pick up from a shelf and read themselves. That’s what Steve Jobs did. That’s right. Steve Jobs did not give his children iPads. The Apple CEO made it a point to have dinner with his family every night, at a long table in the kitchen, and discuss history and books and different matters which affected the children in their daily lives. That’s because he understood the power of gadgets over our lives. He wanted his children to learn in a 3D world.

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Research is very clear. Children have impressionable minds. The younger the child, the stronger the addiction will be to the glow of the screen. Of course, it is more than just the glow of the screen. Brain research suggests that sensory overload from images on a screen stunts neural pathways that create greater focus. Hand-eye coordination activities like playing with LEGO bricks, instead, create great focus and strong neural pathways in the brain.

Low-tech activities are the best gifts you can give a child. I cannot stress that enough. Please don’t take my word for it. Google it, research it, read about it – there is plenty of research out there which will tell you children will not be left behind unless they know how to navigate a digital device. On the contrary. This book or this book would get you started on this research project. (Both are affiliate links.)

So what should you do? Limit your children’s screen time to no more than 30 minutes every day. For younger children, even half an hour may be too much. Babies under two years of age should have absolutely no screen time. The Academy of Pediatrics strongly advises against it.

We have chosen to allow absolutely no video games in our home, not even educational apps. Pen and paper exercises work just fine.

Scared that your children will get bored? Don’t be. Children have played outside with sticks and stones and bicycles for centuries. That’s what they do at expensive Waldorf schools in Silicon Valley – where internet executives send their children to study.

More than anything, let your children play outside. Time spent outside is the best medicine for a growing mind. Kids in Singapore spend the least time outside (two hours per week) and their eyesight suffers greatly.

I hope you understand I am not against technology. I’m a blogger. I’m a Kindle self-published author. But I am an adult. I am aware of the pull screens have on me. Also, I can fight the addiction to Pinterest, Facebook, and the internet in general because I was raised without computers, in the late 70s. Last but not least, I understand what a waste of time it can be. I login, do my work, and get out of there.

But children are impressionable and their brains need to learn habits of focus and thinking. These habits do not happen in front of a screen.


Thoughtful Thursday Week 9 – Spelling Matters

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We finished our spelling curriculum for the year and I am pretty sure we will start on the next level, even though it is marketed to second graders. (My son is still in first grade.) It’s not that I want to rush him through knowledge. It’s just that this curriculum is rather basic and several experienced homeschoolers consider that the next levels can be easily done in earlier grades.

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For spelling, we decided to go with Spelling Workout, one of the recommendations from The Well-Trained Mind. At first, I thought this curriculum had three strikes against itself:

1. It is secular. Of course, spelling cannot be Christian or secular. I am referring to the texts used to teach spelling – very neutral and politically correct. Sometimes it is nice to have passages from the Bible or Christian authors or, at the very least, character-based stories to put in front of your children as you deal with grammar, punctuation and spelling, don’t you think?

2. It is for classroom use. As such, it makes frequent references to school bus rides, lunches in the cafeteria, and other public school concepts my homeschooled children have no reference to.

3. It encourages letter formation in manuscript, not cursive, and we do cursive only.

But I looked around and did not find any good alternatives. I fell completely out of love with Spell to Write and Read. The Teacher’s Manual is completely chaotic. I was going in circles trying to see how to go past the first 12 steps (which we used successfully). All About Spelling seems overpriced, over-hyped, and similar to Spell to Write and Read (minus the mystifying hand signals). Spelling Power starts at age eight and my son is still seven. What’s a girl to do?

I tried Spelling Workout. After all, Susan Wise Bauer is always right, right? Right. I know, I know, nobody is always right, but I am a big fan and the lady has not done anything wrong so far in my book.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 8 – The Best School Desk

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Homeschooling, just like raising kids in general, is this fluid process, as dynamic as anything I have ever seen in life. Take, for instance, the saga of our school desks. We started out at the kitchen table, in preschool and kindergarten. Also, on the couch, reading books.

During the second semester of kindergarten, I realized our son needed to plant his feet firmly on the floor and adopt a good posture for his handwriting exercises. So we moved to this ToysRUs preschool table we bought when he was two or three. It’s a tiny thing with chairs shaped as Winnie the Pooh and Tigger. He used this table successfully until the middle of first grade, i.e. now.

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My son looks like an eight-year-old even though he is only seven. He is rather tall for his age. The desk is getting smaller and smaller, so to speak. The desk is also getting crowded with all the manipulatives for math, not to mention my teacher’s manuals. Even if I keep only one subject on the desk at the time, we are getting cramped.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 7 – Getting the Flu

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My son got the flu last week. We don’t know where, of course. But we had been out almost every day of the week for different activities. The doctor told us to keep him out of school through Thursday. I told her he was homeschooled. She said, “The question is, where did he get the flu?”

I informed her that we had seen people virtually every day of the week before: group violin lesson, Adventurer Club, Library Story Time, church, The Muse… She took it all in. She was going through a paradigm shift in her mind and it was visible on her face.

Homeschooled kids do get out… And they do get the flu… But even if you did not have all these activities, they would be accompanying their parents to the grocery store, at the very minimum, or to church…

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Oh well. Some things don’t change. People will always discover new things about homeschooling which change their perspective 180 degrees.  Continue reading »