Thoughtful Thursday Week 11 – Dual Citizenship

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The title of this post could also be, “Why the United Nations, as an organization, is a bit of a joke” or, better yet, “How my children can study in European universities for free.” Trust me, the two are related.

In 2008, I was summoned to Memphis, TN for one of the many steps in the process of becoming an American citizen. The immigration officer who interviewed me and administered the citizenship test put me under oath and asked me to renounce my Romanian citizenship before accepting the American one. I suppose you can say that, for a few brief moments, before the magic of American citizenship was bestowed upon me, I was no land’s woman.

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Then, I assumed I was no longer a Romanian citizen. I assumed the US State Department or the US Citizenship and Immigration Services or somebody talked to the Romanian Embassy in Washington DC or the Romanian Ministry of External Affairs or somebody and communicated to them that oops, the Romanian side just lost a citizen who voluntarily came over to the American side. Wrong.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 10 – No iPads, Please

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The best gadget you can give a child is a physical book – one they can pick up from a shelf and read themselves. That’s what Steve Jobs did. That’s right. Steve Jobs did not give his children iPads. The Apple CEO made it a point to have dinner with his family every night, at a long table in the kitchen, and discuss history and books and different matters which affected the children in their daily lives. That’s because he understood the power of gadgets over our lives. He wanted his children to learn in a 3D world.

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Research is very clear. Children have impressionable minds. The younger the child, the stronger the addiction will be to the glow of the screen. Of course, it is more than just the glow of the screen. Brain research suggests that sensory overload from images on a screen stunts neural pathways that create greater focus. Hand-eye coordination activities like playing with LEGO bricks, instead, create great focus and strong neural pathways in the brain.

Low-tech activities are the best gifts you can give a child. I cannot stress that enough. Please don’t take my word for it. Google it, research it, read about it – there is plenty of research out there which will tell you children will not be left behind unless they know how to navigate a digital device. On the contrary. This book or this book would get you started on this research project. (Both are affiliate links.)

So what should you do? Limit your children’s screen time to no more than 30 minutes every day. For younger children, even half an hour may be too much. Babies under two years of age should have absolutely no screen time. The Academy of Pediatrics strongly advises against it.

We have chosen to allow absolutely no video games in our home, not even educational apps. Pen and paper exercises work just fine.

Scared that your children will get bored? Don’t be. Children have played outside with sticks and stones and bicycles for centuries. That’s what they do at expensive Waldorf schools in Silicon Valley – where internet executives send their children to study.

More than anything, let your children play outside. Time spent outside is the best medicine for a growing mind. Kids in Singapore spend the least time outside (two hours per week) and their eyesight suffers greatly.

I hope you understand I am not against technology. I’m a blogger. I’m a Kindle self-published author. But I am an adult. I am aware of the pull screens have on me. Also, I can fight the addiction to Pinterest, Facebook, and the internet in general because I was raised without computers, in the late 70s. Last but not least, I understand what a waste of time it can be. I login, do my work, and get out of there.

But children are impressionable and their brains need to learn habits of focus and thinking. These habits do not happen in front of a screen.


Thoughtful Thursday Week 9 – Spelling Matters

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We finished our spelling curriculum for the year and I am pretty sure we will start on the next level, even though it is marketed to second graders. (My son is still in first grade.) It’s not that I want to rush him through knowledge. It’s just that this curriculum is rather basic and several experienced homeschoolers consider that the next levels can be easily done in earlier grades.

Thoughtful Thursday Week 9 Spelling Matters

For spelling, we decided to go with Spelling Workout, one of the recommendations from The Well-Trained Mind. At first, I thought this curriculum had three strikes against itself:

1. It is secular. Of course, spelling cannot be Christian or secular. I am referring to the texts used to teach spelling – very neutral and politically correct. Sometimes it is nice to have passages from the Bible or Christian authors or, at the very least, character-based stories to put in front of your children as you deal with grammar, punctuation and spelling, don’t you think?

2. It is for classroom use. As such, it makes frequent references to school bus rides, lunches in the cafeteria, and other public school concepts my homeschooled children have no reference to.

3. It encourages letter formation in manuscript, not cursive, and we do cursive only.

But I looked around and did not find any good alternatives. I fell completely out of love with Spell to Write and Read. The Teacher’s Manual is completely chaotic. I was going in circles trying to see how to go past the first 12 steps (which we used successfully). All About Spelling seems overpriced, over-hyped, and similar to Spell to Write and Read (minus the mystifying hand signals). Spelling Power starts at age eight and my son is still seven. What’s a girl to do?

I tried Spelling Workout. After all, Susan Wise Bauer is always right, right? Right. I know, I know, nobody is always right, but I am a big fan and the lady has not done anything wrong so far in my book.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 8 – The Best School Desk

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Homeschooling, just like raising kids in general, is this fluid process, as dynamic as anything I have ever seen in life. Take, for instance, the saga of our school desks. We started out at the kitchen table, in preschool and kindergarten. Also, on the couch, reading books.

During the second semester of kindergarten, I realized our son needed to plant his feet firmly on the floor and adopt a good posture for his handwriting exercises. So we moved to this ToysRUs preschool table we bought when he was two or three. It’s a tiny thing with chairs shaped as Winnie the Pooh and Tigger. He used this table successfully until the middle of first grade, i.e. now.

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My son looks like an eight-year-old even though he is only seven. He is rather tall for his age. The desk is getting smaller and smaller, so to speak. The desk is also getting crowded with all the manipulatives for math, not to mention my teacher’s manuals. Even if I keep only one subject on the desk at the time, we are getting cramped.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 7 – Getting the Flu

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My son got the flu last week. We don’t know where, of course. But we had been out almost every day of the week for different activities. The doctor told us to keep him out of school through Thursday. I told her he was homeschooled. She said, “The question is, where did he get the flu?”

I informed her that we had seen people virtually every day of the week before: group violin lesson, Adventurer Club, Library Story Time, church, The Muse… She took it all in. She was going through a paradigm shift in her mind and it was visible on her face.

Homeschooled kids do get out… And they do get the flu… But even if you did not have all these activities, they would be accompanying their parents to the grocery store, at the very minimum, or to church…

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Oh well. Some things don’t change. People will always discover new things about homeschooling which change their perspective 180 degrees.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 6 – More Guest Posts

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Happy Thoughtful Thursday!

Here are two more guest posts I wrote for two very interesting homeschooling blogs:

The titles pretty much speak for themselves. I think you know by now that it is my passion to encourage homeschooling moms to dare to teach a foreign language in their homeschool even if they do not speak it.

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On the other hand, I have a special interest in bilingual and trilingual moms who try to pass on their languages to their children. And yes, there are polyglot moms out there who still haven’t figured out how to do it.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 5 – Speed vs. Depth

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Did you grow up hating math or loving it? I grew up liking math. I made good grades in it, but I never thought I was a “math person” per se.

It turns out, there is no such thing as a “math person.” Everybody is capable of learning math. And everyone should have the chance of being introduced to math in a creative, fun way. Math should not be a series of mindless drills and repetition exercises. Math facts – especially the ones in arithmetic, or the early grades – should be understood.

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Which is why we chose to switch to Right Start Mathematics, a Montessori-inspired math program put together by Dr. Joan Cotter. I was getting a bit bored of this curriculum, not to mention confused – because it is so different, when… I discovered an MOOC by Stanford University called How to Learn Math – For Students. It totally reassured me Right Start Math is the right way to introduce my children to math concepts.

Oh, what a treasure trove of brain research and busted myths about mathematics I found in this Stanford course. It took me about two hours over two days (three sessions total) to finish all the lessons. My children came and hovered over my shoulder for a bit, as I watched the videos and answered the quizzes. Not sure they got much out of it, but some things sounded more interesting than others, I suppose. They stayed longer for some sessions.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 4 – Guest Posting

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My word for 2015 is Less, so, this week, I will not post a long Thoughtful Thursday essay. Instead, I will give you links to guest posts I wrote for other blogs.

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They are as follows:

  • a post about how my children mix Romanian, French and English words in day-to-day life; the post is in Romanian for a Romanian blog called Despre Sufletul Meu. The title (translated into English) is Modern Education. Homeschooling is not legal in Romania and this dear blogger desired to introduce her readers to homeschooling and its many advantages.
  • a post about Multilingual Homeschooling through Books and Music over at Trilingual Mama, a blog written by my friend Maria, who speaks English, Spanish and French and lives in France.

I hope you enjoy the reading.


Thoughtful Thursday Week 3 – Start Creating

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We have been talking about how to stop learning and start thinking. The next step is to start creating. Because in the process of thinking you open yourself up to the Universe or to God, depending on your belief system, creativity comes naturally.

Oscar-nominated composer Pharrell Williams shares with Oprah that he creates his music either in the shower (think sensory deprivation) or in the moment when he’s got no more ideas. In the case of his song Happy, Pharrell reached the point where he had tried everything and the movies executives still did not approve.

To be exact, Pharrell took eight different songs to those who hired him to do the soundtrack for Despicable Me 2. They pushed him to try again by saying, “Close, but that’s not it.”

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Did Pharrell give up? Did he tell them to get another guy? Did he start thinking negatively? Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 2 – Start Thinking

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There is a time for everything: a time to think. It would help if you stopped learning, as I explained in my previous Thoughtful Thursday post. [tweetthis]Cogito ergo sum, right? I think, therefore, I am.[/tweetthis] If I stop thinking, I have ceased to exist.

The man who came up with that phrase was René Descartes, a French mathematician and philosopher. This phrase became a cornerstone of Western philosophy.

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In the context of homeschooling, how do you stop learning and start thinking? Well, how about not following the textbook to the teeth? How about using our minds to assess if our children are too bored or too intimidated by a particular curriculum? Thinking, in this case, is scary. What if you have to change curriculum mid-semester? Was that a waste of your money?  Continue reading »