Mom Monday Week 1 – Children Change the Status Quo

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It’s the first Monday of 2014. Is it already a busy, manic Monday? Or is it slow because you are experiencing the post-holiday letdown? Homeschool Ways will help you every Monday in 2014 through a new series called Mom Monday.

Please take two minutes to read some encouraging words or to find a few tips. These short articles will fall in one of five categories: spiritual, physical, emotional, intellectual, and fun.

Children Change Everything - Week 1

My life changed 100% when I became a mom. Yours did too, probably. I’m not just referring to the amount of laundry, cooking and cleaning I have to do, now that I care for two extra bodies. I also care for two minds and two spiritual beings.  Continue reading »


3 Simple Solutions for Music and Art in Homeschooling

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In homeschooling, just like in traditional schooling, it can be tempting to set music and art aside for when we have time (or money). How can a busy homeschooling mom add music and art to an already full schedule? Here are my solutions (besides violin lessons):

1. Can You Hear It? will start you on this quest to steal a few moments for classical music and art appreciation simultaneously. My kids love this book and CD, which we got from the library. We soon got our own copy from Amazon.

I play the music during meals, but, also, while I cook and they play nearby. We open the book and turn the pages as the tracks change. Sometimes I read to the kids from the book. Other times, we listen and comment on what we see.

Small girl having tea and looking at painting

My daughter listens to “Carnival of the Animals – Aquarium” while looking at the corresponding painting in “Can You Hear It” and enjoying a bagel and raspberry zinger tea; my son is not in the picture because he was finishing up a LEGO project before joining us.

2. A Year in Art offers us visual pleasure as we enjoy our afternoon tea time, a tradition we started about a month ago. Around 4pm, I put a tea kettle on the stove and get out some scones, or biscuits, or bagels, or graham crackers, or toast. I use what I have on hand.

We open the book and look at 3-5 paintings while sipping tea and enjoying something sweet. They have questions. We look for answers together. Sometimes we locate towns and countries on a world atlas.

3. Free concerts – We catch the Knoxville Youth Symphony concerts several times a year and, also, the Sevier County Choral Society concerts (December and May). I used to sing with the Choral Society before I became a mom, so it sort of feels like a reunion for me. If you check your local newspaper or Google free concerts in your area, you should find similar offerings where you live.

I have felt the liberating and relaxing effects of art and music in our homeschooling enough, that I am thinking about experimenting with doing music and/or art before math, reading or writing. I’ll let you know if I have enough courage to implement it on a regular basis. So far, I have done it once and we all loved it.


Lego Education Simple Machines Pack Review

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Last March, I decided to invest in a LEGO Education set for my son, who loves building with LEGO bricks. The Simple Machines Pack for homeschool seemed like the most basic set and a good place to start. It did not disappoint.

It presents four sets of simple machines: gears, wheels and axles, levers and pulleys. The target audience is students in grades one through three, but my son was not even in kindergarten in spring and he had no trouble building.

Of course, he needed guidance. At times, it seemed the concepts went over his head, so I did not insist on the theory. I let him building and play with his creations. He really enjoyed predicting outcomes and then testing to see if he was right or wrong.

I could follow the lesson plans easily, even though I am not mechanically inclined. The binder contains the same information as the CD-ROM, but I would highly recommend you get both, for your convenience.

Wheels and Axles, the second lesson of simple machines in this activity pack, showed my son how to build a go-cart and a wheelbarrow.

Levers provided further fun learning, with models like a catapult and a railroad crossing gate.

Finally, the fourth simple machines: pulleys. This complex model on the left is called crazy floors. On the right, my daughter is enjoying her go-cart.

We have since bought the Simple and Motorized Machines Activity Pack for our son, so the Simple Machines set has become my daughter’s set by default. She cannot build yet all by herself, as she is only three.

She enjoys watching me build these models for her. I tell her what I need and she helps by handing me the right bricks and plates – great exercise for reviewing colors and numbers in both Romanian and English.

I highly recommend both these sets for your homeschool and, if your children are small, I would definitely start with the Simple Machines Pack first to test the waters. For more LEGO projects, click here.



Happy New Year 2014!

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Whether you homeschool or not, New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day bring so much excitement. We all appreciate a new beginning, a clean slate, a fresh start.

Traditionally, we wish each other a Happy New Year. That’s nice, as long as we go beyond wishing and hoping.

Children wishing a happy new year 2014 in front of a white board

My children with their new board and easel.

Salman Khan of the Khan Academy inspired me with his 2012 commencement speech at Rice University. He encouraged the graduates to take a pro-active approach towards happiness and challenged them to increase the net happiness of the world.

How do you do that?

1. Be positive in a delusional kind of way, even when the situation looks hopeless. “Sometimes I force myself to smile. Good things happen in your body when you smile,” he says.

2. Appreciate the smallest things people do for you and tell them so. A waiter, a bank teller, a sibling, a friend, a store clerk – they all need a word of encouragement and a compliment. By saying one nice thing, you might not only turn a bad day into a good one for someone, you might turn a career around. The ripple effects of positive words cannot be measured.

3. Travel forwards and backwards in time. Let’s say that you were 70 today, but somehow you could magically go back in time to today and re-live your life. You can re-live all your successes, and fix all your regrets.

What kind of things would a 70-year-old person regret?

  • not spending more time with their children
  • not saying “I love you” more to their spouse
  • not telling their parents how much they appreciate them

There’s nothing on that list about bringing more work home from the office for the weekend or getting all the laundry done by a certain time each day.

Corollary: by homeschooling your children, you touch not only your children and grandchildren, but this world in ways you don’t even dream about.

On that note, let me wish you a Happy New Year and a successful homeschool in 2014.


Starting to Homeschool – Looking Back at 2013

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Looking back at 2013, I can split the year in three sections, even though homeschooling is woven throughout:

1. January-May: preparing to start homeschooling in the fall, I spent my time reading and gathering curriculum. I taught the children in a gentle and relaxed way, with short lessons. We read a lot and worked our way through “Before Five in a Row.” They were both preschoolers.

My daughter gave herself a radical haircut in February and the incident haunted me for months. It still does, as her hair is still growing into what it used to be. I was running errands in town and my mom was watching my children. My mom forgot to put the scissors up. One can put the scissors up 99 times. It’s the 100th time one doesn’t, that the inevitable happens.

Children looking at a cat

My children at Camp Wesley Woods in Townsend, a few days after she cut her hair. This cat looks just like ours. They could not believe their eyes.

2. June-August: my sister, her husband, and their 14-year-old son spent the summer with us. She is a successful blogger in Romania and provided the much-needed inspiration and push for me to start blogging. Yay for older sisters who help younger sisters take new paths!

Extended family visiting Dollywood

From the left: the four of us, my sister, mom, nephew and brother-in-law. We enjoyed their company for almost three months – Europeans get amazingly long vacations, don’t they?

3. September-December: I started homeschooling my son officially, as he began kindergarten. My daughter is in preschool and I work with her too, according to her desire. She asks to do math every day.

Children being educated at home work on their projects at the dining room table.

My children working on their books in the beginning of the school year.

Homeschooling and blogging about it sure keep me busy. I enjoy it. I keep telling myself my children will grow up in a flash. Then, I will have all the time in the world to do whatever I might feel that I don’t have time for right now.

Looking Back at 2013


Gentle, My Word for 2014

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I chose a word to represent my hopes and plans for 2014 in homeschooling, blogging and family life: gentle.

I have been working on being more gentle all my life, but I will take things to a new level in 2014. My children have inspired me to go in that direction, as children often do to parents.

Where do I begin to explain how difficult this word is for me?

  • I’m Romanian. We are passionate, emotional, and action-oriented people. Gentleness does not come naturally.
  • I am goal-oriented and high-achieving.
  • They keep moving the goal posts on me. Translation: I am never satisfied with the status quo for more than a few days.
  • I have a Type A personality. I could not even type “gentle” above without making it bold. Sigh.

When I thought about what my word should be for 2014, I thought of my goals, of course. I have goals. I am in the process of reading not one, but two books on planning and getting things done. However, as ambitious as my plans are for 2014, nothing is as daring as reaching the mountain top of gentleness.

Butterflies on a flower. Gentleness exemplified.


“Oh! that gentleness! how far more potent is it than force!”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

Nothing is as important, either. What is gaining the whole world while trampling others in the process? So I decided that as long as I accomplish things without being gentle, I might as well not accomplish them.

And here’s the funny part:

My children are high-strung, hard-working, stubborn, and independent. The apple does not fall far from the tree.

I have found out that I can only guide them the way I like to be guided: gently. It’s an uphill battle which requires:

1. Lots of time spent with the One who is meek and lowly.

2. Numerous trips to the throne of mercy, asking for forgiveness.

3. Apologizing to my children every time I am not gentle.

4. Lots of courage to start the process all over again every day.

I marvel at such words as “still, small voice” or “meek and lowly in heart” or “peace maker” or “the Lord was not in the earthquake” or “Let your gentleness be known to all men.”

So glad I homeschool. I have all this time with my children, to practice gentleness and guide them in that direction as well. What is your word for 2014?

Word for 2014


My Husband Does Not Want Me to Homeschool

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To all mothers who feel called to homeschool but cannot, because their husbands do not approve:

I don’t know what is going on in your marriage. I have no idea how you two make decisions. But I know that God can intervene, based on what happened to me.

Here’s my story in short:

1. I did not want to homeschool.

2. God changed my heart.

3. I wanted to homeschool.

4. My husband did not.

5. I prayed.

6. God changed my husband’s heart.

7. We homeschool.

Want details? Read on.

Don’t want details? Skip to the last paragraph.

Once I decided homeschooling would be the best for the children, I tried talking to my husband about it, to no avail. We covered many angles. We turned the homeschooling lifestyle inside out. Finally, he decided we would not homeschool.

It wasn’t about the money. It was about:

  • the unknown
  • the weirdness factor
  • the fear our children would resent us
  • the conviction our children would turn out as social misfits
  • [insert the usual arguments against homeschooling from people who don’t have much information about it]

I got really, really sad. I felt I lost a dream.

As I counseled with a homeschooling mom, she said, “Adriana, the decision to homeschool happens in a split second. All the odds may be against it in your family. Then, something happens. God makes it possible. God changes hearts, you know?”

She was right.

Dad reading to his son and daughter

My husband reads to our children every day. This routine has already created numerous memories.

Just as I resigned myself to visions of PTA meetings and 5K race fundraisers at my children’s future school – because my children were only one and four at the time – my husband said, “OK, let’s homeschool…”

What changed his mind? He said he had this thought: “If homeschooling the kids means so much to my wife, why not let her do it? What harm can it do? If the kids get behind, they can catch up once we put them in school. If she gets overwhelmed with it, it will be her decision to quit. I won’t be the bad guy.”

The Holy Spirit was reasoning with him. I could not win the argument. God could, and He did. My husband listened. Now that’s the key.

God knows your husband. Pray and wait patiently on the Lord. If your husband’s heart does not change about homeschooling, God knows about it. He understands. God knows your heart and He will note your disappointment. Hang in there!


Merry Christmas

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Our family is taking two weeks of break from homeschooling. Of course, learning never stops. My son keeps practicing his violin and putting together LEGO Education models. My daughter asks to do math and reading. I work with her for 15 minutes or until she loses focus. But the pace is slow and the projects are initiated by them. We read to them every day.

We have been baking cookies for neighbors and other special people in our lives. The children were so excited to deliver the goodies. That’s Home Ec. and service on my list of educational objectives, but I don’t record them through the holiday season.

Merry Christmas from our family to yours - The Zoder Family

Merry Christmas from our family to yours – The Zoder Family

We wish you and your family a peaceful and joyous holiday season and a Merry Christmas!


To Wear or Not to Wear at Home

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The learning benefit of having uniforms in homeschooling

While still not the norm, homeschooling nevertheless has been on the rise in the last few years. And even though some countries deem homeschooling undesirable – and, more alarmingly, illegal – most governments of developed nations like the US, Ireland, Denmark, and the UK have legalized homeschooling and consider it an appropriate alternative to regular schooling.

An article by FamilyEducation.com reports that the number of homeschooled kids rises between 7% to 15% each year and, at present, goes over the 2 million mark. Evidently, many parents see the benefit of homeschooling. For instance, the educational flexibility – the rate at which you teach your child the intricacies of Dr. Seuss’s rhymes can slow down or speed up accordingly, depending on his level of comprehension. No other student will slow him down to the point of boredom, or hurry him up to the point of learning inadequacy. He can develop at his own pace.

All homeschooling advocates do not agree on everything though. For instance, uniforms. Some parents say uniforms could bring about the loss of a sense of individuality for the kids.

It’s all a matter of perspective. Instead of the point above, think of it as allowing your children to express their own identities despite all of them wearing the same thing.

Homeschooled children can wear uniforms to foster individual expression of creativity by adding their own flare to the outfit.

Homeschooled children can wear uniforms to foster individual expression of creativity by adding their own flare to the outfit.

A certain level of conformity to laws and social standards must occur as we live in this world. However, that doesn’t mean that people have to totally be the same in every way. The key? Striking a balance between conformity and individualism. Making your kids learn that early on through creative expression despite dressing in similarly looking uniforms is a good starting point.

You can get your kids uniforms that have similar motifs, but don’t exactly match each other 100%. This can instill in them the idea that, even if, at first glance, they are dressed the same, little touches here and there differentiate them from each other.

When shopping for homeschooling uniforms, quality is, of course, a factor to consider. Marks & Spencer’s Testing Overview page should give you proper guidelines on quality control. However, foremost on your mind should be the aforementioned flourishes to give each child’s uniform its own mark. If you feel so inclined, you can even let your kids do this part to further foster their individual creativity.

As stated, it’s all a matter of perspective. Amidst the uniformity, there can still be individuality. Instilling this value early on can only mean good things for your kids’ intellectual development.

Guest Post by Oliver Johnson