Thoughtful Thursday Week 51 – Recitals and Jitters

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Why am I more nervous when my children have recitals than when I used to have my own? Why don’t I feel my feet when they have their annual testing? Thankfully, testing is only once a year. Recitals come around every six months.

And now that our church family is aware that our children can play instruments, they ask for a special music now and then. It has already happened three times this year, so I think we could probably plan on a quarterly special music performance by either one of them for next year.

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My children, being as young as they are, view music and practice as a chore. Maybe it’s my fault. I do not know how to make it fun. And, perhaps, I do not believe that practice or learning of any sorts should be all cutesy and fun. I believe in hard work and learning or practicing a musical instrument is hard work.

Realizing our need for an attitude change, I recently spent some time with them telling them about the power of music to soothe and comfort the heart in a way that a sermon or a Bible verse or a book or a movie cannot. I reminded them that people come to church (or to kids’ recitals) with their problems, with their worries, with their issues. Music helps lift their burdens.

The kids’ music is, in a sense, an act of service: they have worked hard and they will get nothing material out of it. More skills, yes, but no money or a trip or an award and not even a sticker. Only the satisfaction that they have touched somebody, somehow. Even that may be wishful thinking. We don’t get a real confirmation other than a polite comment here and there from those who care enough to say a kind word.

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Story of the World, Vol. 2, Chapter 13

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Chapter 13 deals with Charlemagne fighting the Moors at Tours. The kids and I had a lot of fun with this one because (1) it’s about France, (2) they got to learn about Charlemagne for the first time, (3) Charlemagne is one of my favorite kings, and (4) I did not have to cook anything. Ha!

After reading them the stories while they colored Charlemagne, I decided that for our craft/activity we would build a tent and re-enact the battle of Tours.

Girl pretending to be a Moor in a tent

My daughter pretending to be a Moor in her tent, happy with her spoils

After being very happy with her loot, my daughter invited me in the tent and we sat there enjoying ourselves, admiring our coins (pretend coins from our play cash register), petting our stuffed animals, and wondering if we should start nibbling on raisins or peanut butter crackers first.

Then, out of the blue, the Franks attacked us! It was loud and scary. Panic set in. We thought too much about our possessions and how not to lose them, so we lost the battle, the famous battle of Tours. And, of course, we ended up losing our possessions, too.

Boy pretending to be a Frank

The Franks are coming!

Great fun was had by all. We even video taped a few of these attacks, but you would get dizzy watching our videos. My daughter likes to spin at the end of every video as she holds the camera in her hands. It will remain a family video.

One last thing: they were touched by the fact that Charlemagne actually did not learn how to write. A lot could be said on the subject. Suffice it to say that it really puts things into perspective about medieval times.


Zoder’s Featured on the Today Show

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Just a quick post about my husband’s business, Zoder’s Inn and Suites, which got an honorable mention the other day on the Today Show. Trip Advisor came up with this algorithm about travel destinations on the rise for 2016 and Top 10 US destinations, as well as Top 10 international destinations.

Zoder's Inn balconies overlooking the Roaring Fork River in Gatlinburg, TN

Zoder’s Inn balconies overlooking the Roaring Fork River in Gatlinburg, TN

Guess what? Gatlinburg, TN is the Number 1 travel destination in the USA and, also, Number 4 in the international market. Hello, traffic! But we have learned to count traffic as a blessing, as it means revenue for all the businesses in town.  Continue reading »


Thoughtful Thursday Week 50 – Looking Ahead to 2016

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Do you have plans already for 2016? Have you started looking ahead? I have not, but I came across a wonderful planning workbook and thought I would share it with you. I saved it for myself and plan on filling it out in the next few weeks, before 2016 rushes in upon us.

Thoughtful Thursday - Looking Ahead

Some of you may be familiar with Live Your Legend, Scott Dinsmore’s community of people who want to do work they love. We homeschooling parents are doing work we love. So I think we fit right in. Even though this workbook is not specific to homeschoolers (or any other profession), it will help you define your educational (and otherwise) plans for the following calendar year.  Continue reading »


It’s A Process

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After a couple of days of even more incidents, we have finally made headway with our wild child – how else? – by first changing our own head. First on my own, then by talking with my husband, then by seeing other moms.

It just so happened that for the following two days I saw two other homeschooling moms at different events and they both shared their experience with me. They sympathized with this situation and told me what worked for them.

The most important take away is this: our children are showing us who they are. And that is a good thing. Before they go into the world, they show their true colors to us, their parents. We should be glad they trust us with their true selves. Don’t we want to know our children? Don’t we want to know they are independent and strong-minded and not push overs?

The second thing is this: I discovered something about myself in the process. If I can walk away from this encounter with a better understanding of what makes me tick (and not tick) then I count it all joy.

Which leads me to the third point: trials are really a source of joy because they cause us to grow. Yes, experiencing trials may be painful and intense and seemingly negative, but as long as we grow from it, it is all worth it.

Last but not least, our children are their own persons. We might want them to do something for our own fulfillment, but they may go in a different direction. The funny thing is, we might not even know why we behave a certain way. Our own secret desires may not be known to us until a conflict arises. What comes out of our mouth may surprise us and enlighten us.

For that, trials and conflicts in a homeschool are to be embraced and lived through and slowly but surely looked upon as blessings – count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations, as James eloquently put it in his epistle.


Discouragement

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Tonight I feel discouraged. We had an incident during violin practice with one of our children. This child refuses to slow down and do what is required. I worked and worked with their attitude. Nothing worked. Nothing I tried, that is.

Finally, I had to put a stop to the practice and send the child to their room. I felt so empty.

When I don’t succeed in motivating interest, it takes away my energy.

I feel discouraged.

What I know for sure is that when one is discouraged, one should not make any decisions.

I will not make any decisions. Not tonight.

Consequences will have to be applied – removal of privileges works well. No screen time for a week or something of that nature. No dessert – sugar is not good for us anyway…

It’s not the action. It’s the attitude behind the action that bothers me. It’s the defiance that needs to be addressed.

Parenting is not for the faint of heart.

Even if my children attended a private school or a public school, I would still be the one enforcing violin practice and piano practice, along with homework.

It was a tough day at the office. My husband reassures me this too shall pass. Education, like parenting, is a journey and some portions of this journey are tough.

Here’s to the power of prayer and steadfastness.


Thoughtful Thursday Week 49 – The Sugar Plum Fairy Is Flexible

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Today we attended The Nutcracker Ballet in Knoxville, at the Civic Auditorium. It’s quickly becoming an annual tradition for us. This is our third year in a row. The children enjoy it very much. I love it. Ballet, like any art, is therapeutic. It healed some of the brokenness I was feeling after the terror attacks in Paris, San Bernardino, and the loss of our friends’ daughter last week.

Nutcracker ballerinas

The Appalachian Ballet Company has been performing The Nutcracker for 44 years.

On a funny note, my son told my husband, “Daddy, I don’t want to dance.” Poor guy. Mommy took him to several concerts by the Knoxville Youth Symphony Orchestra several years ago and, next thing he knew, he got a violin for his fifth birthday and started violin lessons. Now that he sees mommy keeps taking him to this ballet, he wonders if the next extra-curricular activity is dance.  Continue reading »


Involve Your Relatives in Your Kids’ Education

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Home education can greatly benefit from the help and involvement of your family. According to the Harvard Family Research Project, getting your relatives involved in your kids’ education can make a big difference in how well children adjust and how much they learn. But what exactly is family involvement and how can you make your relatives important in your kids’ education?

Find out how your kids learn – Before you seek to involve your relatives, find out how your children learn. Not all children understand things in the same way, so if your child is a visual learner, he will need different help from an auditory learner. For more information about your child’s unique learning style, you can check out Scholastic. Once you have established this, it will be easier to prepare activities and exercises that are suitable to your kids’ needs.

Set structure and routine – For successful parent and relative involvement, you need to set certain activities and timetables for your kids. Setting structures and routines at home – for example, every Tuesday afternoon, Uncle Edward teaches Spanish, or every Sunday the grandparents come to read stories – makes learning a priority. Be as consistent as possible in maintaining that structure.  Continue reading »


She Leaves Glitter on Me

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The other day, I bought my daughter some winter outfits and everything sparkled. Glitter is in, apparently. You can’t get away from it.

Of course, my daughter loves it. The trouble is, the sparkles come off on anything her clothes touch. Not a whole lot. Just enough to leave me sparkling after I had her in my lap for a few minutes. But is that really trouble?

She leaves glitter on me, my five-year-old daughter. And oh, how I treasure it.

Ann Voskamp wrote that she gave birth to six children but each of them gave birth to her in return. Every time a woman becomes a mother, she becomes a new person. The world changes when your child comes into the world. You change. The child changes the mother.

Children fundraising for Operation Christmas Child

My children waiting for donations for Operation Christmas Child, dressed in their Adventurer uniforms. Deborah is wearing her blue coat, her back toward the camera.

And daughters especially have a way of leaving glitter on our clothes, on our hearts, on our hands.

Tonight a friend of mine is mourning the loss of her eight-year-old daughter, killed in a freak backyard accident a week ago. No more glitter. Deborah – that was her name – is now a memory. The mother is afraid to go back to her home and walk through her daughter’s room. She is staying with her own parents, unable to make herself look at her daughter’s glitter.  Continue reading »


Taking Out the Trash

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About once a year, we arm ourselves with trash bags and walk through our neighborhood to pick up trash. We probably should do it more often. Maybe we will, as the kids get older.

Boy with collected trash on Earth Day

My son with the trash he collected along the road in our neighborhood.

They learn so much by doing it. Plus, it counts as service. I don’t have a particular number of service hours as a goal, though maybe I should. But I know service is important for the children. They need to learn life consists of times when we help others or we work hard for no tangible reward. We only receive the satisfaction of having cleaned the ditches in our neighborhood.  Continue reading »